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Monday, January 28, 2013

Why You Shouldn't Room With Your Best Friend

In April, I blogged about how I roomed with my best friend even though everyone told me not to.  My advice to everyone was to think long and hard before deciding to room with your best friend.

Now, a year and a half later, I've become one of those people who says "Do not room with your best friend from high school." Here are a few reasons why.

1. Your best friend is not necessarily the person you'll live best with. There are some things you just don't know about a person until you've lived with them for awhile. Even in the first few weeks or months things will be fine because you'll still be watching to make sure you're doing okay in your new home. After awhile, though, people tend to get complacent with each other and the bad habits really start coming out.

2. Rooming with your best friend doesn't encourage you to get out and meet new people. You still need to get out and make new friends. Living with your best friend can make it too easy to just hang out with each other all the time because it's convenient.

3. Potential loss of friendship. If things don't work out with your best friend when you room together, there's a potential that your friendship could take a hit. I know two best friends that moved in with each other. Within a couple weeks, one of them decided to move out because they weren't compatible living together and they decided it would be better for their friendship.

4. It can be harder to confront your best friend. If you have a problem with your roommate, you need to be able to talk to them about it. It can be harder to go to them if your roommate is also your best friend, especially if there's a potential that it could affect your friendship. Because of this, problems can fester and become worse until they really do ruin your friendship.

5. It can be harder to think long-term. If you're planning on moving somewhere without your best friend after you've been living together for a year or two, that can be tricky. It's harder to tell your best friend the news without making them feel like you don't want to live with them. You may meet new friends that you want to live with. For my junior year, I've decided to move in with two of my other friends and I found that news hard to break to my current roommate. Vice versa, she's decided to try to move to another dorm for this semester and she had a hard time telling me.

1 comments:

Samantha said...

Ugh it's so true. It's hard to live with friends!